Hi All.
Happy Christmas Eve's Eve. What's going on at your home, space, place?
I'm feeling very blessed and very stingy that I've got a blanket wrapped around me when the temperature here in Northern California is 51 and we have power, water and can walk outside without slipping on ice. In other words, only those have who are inebriated are landing on the butts while walking on anything but carpet.
Just saw a national news report where someone's tap water from the kitchen sink was instantly freezing as it dripped. One of the towns we were considering for relocation was Youngston, Ohio. Temp there has remained around -3 degrees throughout the day. Guess what town is no longer on the list of possibilities?
As much as I love you Canadians and New Englanders, your states are right out too! California has so, so, so many problems and it's uber expensive to live here but maybe breathing smoke for 5 months out of the year isn't so bad. I do want to share that a couple of days ago our bird baths were frozen a couple of mornings.. The Guy went out, busted up the ice and refilled with warm water which was frozen solid again within an hour. We so have our moments.
While I have your attention, I need to ask you a couple of questions. I'm feeling a little challenged this evening and I trust your wisdom, especially Martha, Peg, Debra, Linda and Rain. Help a girl out on this.
I have pulmonary fibrosis, my husband's brother has a serious heart condition. My husband's brother also has The Guy's and Brother-in-law's 90 year old mother living with them. She has her own little space which is sort of isolated from the main living space. People can visit the mom without actually having to enter the main living area.
Last Sunday the Guy and I dropped off a picture I painted for my sister-in-law. We knew the Mom was sick but isolated in her area. She did pop her head in to say she was sick so was going to stay in her room but wanted to just say hi. She then popped back into her room. We visited with brother and wife for about 15 minutes when another sister went in to Mother-in-law's room to check on her. After being in the room for about 10 minutes, she came into the main house. No hugs happened but sister visited for another 15 minutes and then The Guy and I left. (Side note: Sister-in-law who dropped in after visiting with sick mom does have a background in healthcare, so I think she should have known better).
That was Sunday. Today is Friday. This morning, brother-in-law tested positive f'or Covid. When they checked with Mom today, she did admit that the lady she sits next to in church every morning did come down with Covid but she didn't share that info with Brother-in-law or his wife.
I also woke up this morning with extra congestion and coughing (not usual) and have a runny nose (ew, sorry)! I tested, but was negative.
Now I need some real sound and unbiased feelings about this! I'm upset (to be honest, I'm a bit more than upset). The S-I-L that came to check on Mom (even though S-I-L that lives there was taking care of Mom while masked, and making sure her needs were being met). S-I-L was in room with sick Mom, not masked, and then came into room with us, not masked. Brother-in-law has serious heart condition and I am at high risk becasue of IPF.
I'm upset! I feel the one S-I-L acted irresponsibly by coming into main house after being in sick room. They Guy says it's no big deal. He says he is sure that she had no intention of getting everyone sick so we shoudl just let it go. I think one of us should let her know that she (and other family members need to think before they put others at risk.
What do you think? Am I being disagreeable? Should people, even thouse with good intentions be reminded that good intentions can still be irresponsible?
Be honest because I'm really feeling gaslighted. Maybe I am just overreacting!
P.S. The 10 siblings have a history of doing no wrong and are supported 100% and if there is a problem it's usually because one of us non-siblings are overreacting.
Gaslighting or Unreasonable. (p.s. I'd ask my therapist but she's out until after the first of year!)